You brought it up gently. You framed it around your own feelings, not their limitations. You made it clear this was about love, not worry. And they still said no.
This happens in a lot of families. And it does not mean the conversation is over.
Why parents resist
The refusal to accept any kind of support system is almost always about identity, not practicality. Accepting help signals to your parent that things are changing. That they are in a different chapter now. That their independence, which most older adults prize above almost everything else, is being renegotiated.
None of that is actually true, of course. A daily text is not surveillance. It is not the beginning of a conversation about assisted living. It is just a text. But what it represents can feel large when you are the one receiving it.
Reframe around them, not around you
The most effective reframe is to make the service about their relationship with their grandchildren, or with a sibling, or with a part of the family they do not hear from often enough. Not about whether they need checking on. About whether they would enjoy connecting.
"Nobody refuses a good morning text from someone they love. The resistance is to being monitored. Make it clear this is something different."
Some families find that simply enrolling without a big conversation works better than asking permission. The first message arrives. Their parent replies because they are polite or curious or both. By the end of the first week, most resistance has dissolved.
When the refusal is firm
Respect it and wait. You cannot force connection. But you can keep the door open, keep the conversation natural, and try again in a few months. Most families get there eventually. The ones who do not were usually dealing with something bigger than a check-in service could fix anyway.